My recent HuffPost Personal article “In ‘And Just Like That,’ Hearing Loss Is The Punchline Of The Joke… Again” explains why as a hearing aid wearer, I am angry about the way hearing loss is portrayed in the “Sex and the City” revival. I was thrilled HuffPost published the piece to help raise awareness about the issue and to help refute some of the stigma-causing behaviors featured in the show. But what HuffPost didn’t include, were practical tips that we, as people with hearing loss, can use to help refute the stigma of hearing aids and hearing loss. See below for an excerpt from the piece, but read until the end to see my suggested action steps.
Hearing Aid Negative Stereotypes Abound
The show has been an incredible disappointment in many ways, including its portrayal of hearing aids and hearing loss. For a show that aims to celebrate the lives of people in their 50s, this was a huge misstep.
Here’s the dialogue from the first time we see hearing-aid-wearer Steve on screen:
“Steve-o, long time, no see. What’s new?”
“Hey, I got hearing aids. I’m an old-timer now.”
Later in the scene, Stanford turns to Steve and says, “Steve, would you ever just leave Miranda? Oh, boy.”
“What? What he say?” is Steve’s reply.
And later, Miranda whispers to him during a performance, “Tell your son to stop.”
I guess it didn’t take the actor long to learn his lines.
The media buzz picked up last week, with major entertainment publications reporting that Steve’s hearing aids were inspired by the actor, David Eigenberg, who recently began using hearing aids in real life. It’s a great idea—art imitating life—but why did the writers do it in a stereotyped and negative way? By all accounts the actor is very pleased with his hearing aids. Why doesn’t Steve seem to get the same benefit?
Perhaps it has to do with the lingering stigma that still surrounds hearing loss. Stereotypes for people with hearing loss include being seen as “old” or “slow” or “rude” or “out of touch” and “not worth the time it takes to communicate with them.”
In And Just Like That, Steve embodies all these qualities. Not hearing the question — check. Looking befuddled and out of it — check. Being dismissed when he is not able to participate — check. Steve personifies everything we hope not to be. Shame on the the writers for propagating this negative and unrealistic view of people with hearing loss.
How Can We Break the Stigma of Hearing Loss?
What can we do as people with hearing loss to help beat back the stigma?
1. Normalize it. Discuss your hearing loss like you would any other characteristic about yourself. If you are comfortable with it, others will be as well.
2. Refute the stigma by leading your vibrant and engaging life with your hearing loss and hearing devices proudly on display. Encourage others to do the same.
3. Learn to live well with your hearing loss. Read books like my upcoming book Hear & Beyond: Live Skillfully with Hearing Loss, co-authored with Gael Hannan, and share them with your family and friends so they can be better allies.
5. Advocate for yourself by requesting the accommodations you need to communicate well and commend the businesses who provide them. Call out those companies and entertainment venues (that’s you And Just Like That!) that fall short.
6. Vote with your feet. According to Hearing Loss Association of America, almost 50 million people in the United States have hearing loss — this is a lot of potential consumer spending. If people with hearing loss are not treated with respect, take your business elsewhere.
And just like that, I changed the channel.
Click here to read the full story on HuffPost. If it resonates with you, please share it widely to help build momentum for articles about hearing loss in the mainstream media.
Readers, how often do you see hearing loss used as the punchline of the joke in the media you watch?